As girls, since we were born, we have been constantly immersed in the idea of finding our soulmate and knight in shining armor. We grew up watching Cinderella, Boy Meets World, and the Notebook, and we’ve dreamed of finding our Prince Charming, Cory, and Noah. We’ve spent hours and hours of our lives with friends formulating the perfect boyfriend and husband. We’ve finished romantic books and movies with dreams of one day finding a love like we just read or watched. We’ve pinned 487 wedding dresses and engagements rings (and cakes and bridesmaids’ dresses and napkins and placeholders and reception photo booths) to our “One day” Pinterest boards. We’ve gotten all dressed up for Christian events and convinced ourselves that that is most certainly the place where we will find THE ONE–he will be standing there, Bible in hand, holy and smokin’ as can be, waiting to sweep us off our feet. Whether we’ve realized it or not, we’ve been on a pursuit of a husband since we were born. And everything about society and culture has supported our pursuit.
However, in the midst of trying to find the one, we are missing out on prince charming. We are looking in all the wrong places. We are seeking out the one man who will fill the perfect shoes that we have created for him. The great news is: he exists. Our prince charming is not a knight in shining armor. Plot twist: our prince charming is actually the King. Our prince charming is Jesus. If you truly bask in all that Jesus was and is today, He truly fulfills everything we’ve pursued in a man. Actually, he far surpasses everything we’ve pursued in a man.
He rescues us and comes to our rescue.
We’ve always dreamed of the man who will be our protector. He will wrap his arms around us and tell us “it’s okay” when we feel the world is against us. He will protect us in every way he knows how.
Yep, Jesus will.
“And call for help when you’re in trouble–I’ll help you, and you’ll honor me.” Psalm 50:15
He will make us feel like a princess every day of our lives.
In Jesus, we find our worth and value. He chose us.
“Bur you are the ones chosen by God, chosen for the high calling of priestly work, chosen to be a holy people, God’s instruments to do his work and speak out for him” (1 Peter 2:9)
He will love us in the highest of highs and lowest of lows.
Nothing we do could ever make Jesus stop loving us. Think about it: we cheat on him, we ignore him, and we disrespect him every single day. Yet his love never even wavers. That is far more than I could ever expect from a future husband, yet we forget the extent of His preciousness all the time.
“For I am convinced that neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither the present nor the future, nor any powers, neither heights nor depth, nor anything else in all creation, will be able to separate us from the love of God that is in Christ Jesus our Lord.” (Romans 8:38-39)
He respects us so much and is such a gentleman, he will not force himself into our hearts.
While Jesus loves you more than anything in the world and wants you to love him so so badly, he will never force himself on you or make you love him. He will pursue you, but it is ultimately up to you whether you are going to let him in.
“Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with that person, and they with me.” (Revelation 3:20).
So instead of anxiously trying to find our husbands, and instead of being on the full-fledged “ring by spring” mission, let’s redirect our passion. Let’s take the same desire and longing that we have developed towards our dream men, and use it to respond to Jesus. Let’s open up our hearts to the immensity of the love He has for us, and pour our passion into HIS heart. Let’s be anxious to date Jesus.
Let’s let go of the fairytales that we have spent our whole lives writing, and step into the fairytale that Jesus has already written for us: The fairytale that stars Him and us. It’s not until we step into this fairytale that we will be able to truly experience abundant joy, genuine fullness, and passionate, raw love.
God literally IS love. 1 John 4:8 tells us so. He is the creator of ALL life, so I think it’s a pretty safe bet that His story will far surpass all of Nicholas Sparks’s combined. We must first know love before we can be equipped to give it. We must first know God, and we must first know His Son–our prince charming.
Don’t miss out on your prince charming, looking for your prince charming.